Police work does have unique aspects to
sexual stress.  You'll be dealing regularly
with a male criminal element that has no
appreciation for women.  When a woman
puts on a police uniform, that lack of
appreciation can become even more
pronounced.  You could frequently find
yourself enduring sexist comments and
language that will initially cause you
stress.  You'll simply have to train
yourself to tune out the insults.  If you
don't, the resulting stress will be of your
own making.

Then there's the normal thing between
men and women that often occurs in the
workplace.  Yes... the work environment
often creates legitimate romantic
relationships.  Here's the only advice I
can give you on this one.  If you're
working together in an assignment where
you're performing actual police work like
responding to calls and doing other
dangerous things, request that one of
you be transferred to another

In police work, controlling your emotional
responses to anything is a big deal.  
Where intimate relationships are involved,
danger to one will evoke a strong
emotional response from the other.  
When a police officer's action(s) is
controlled more by emotion than training,
the result(s) can be catastrophic.

When you begin your career, you're
going to be just as inexperienced as your
male counterparts.  You're going to need
advice and guidance just like the new
guys.  Unlike the boys, however, you
may well find more willingness from the
experienced cops to help you.  I wonder
why?  Anyway...never feel uncomfortable
about putting anyone in his place if he's
making you feel uncomfortable.      
When I began my police career, police
commanders didn't want to know
anything about your domestic life, and
they especially didn't want to hear
anything about sexual issues.  When
some things change, they change in a big
way.  Today, the subject of sex is
everywhere, and police departments can't
escape a reality that sometimes reaches
absurd proportions.

As a female police officer, you'll be
entering a work force where, on average,
you'll be outnumbered 8 to 2.  While
some women might find the lopsided
ratio appealing, others won't.  It really
doesn't matter which view you take,
because you'll be subjected to sexual
stress either way.  The only difference will
be in how and why that stress originates.

As long as you begin your career with the
realization that you have no immunity
from being subjected to sources of
sexual stress, you'll be way ahead at
protecting yourself from needless
suffering.  You might think that all the
sexual harassment laws will protect you
from sexual stress.  Think again, because
most male police officers don't even think
about sexual harassment issues; until,
they're slammed in the face with an
allegation of sexual harassment.  Further,
when sexual stress is placed into the
context of sexual harassment, it simply
results in additional stress.

You'll fall into one of two categories of
female police officers.  In the first
category are those women who become
police officers, because they really want
to do police work.  The second category
will be comprised of women who know
men's weaknesses, and they will not
hesitate in exploiting those weaknesses.  
Since you're obviously in the first
category, listen closely.

Police departments aren't any different
from any other male dominated work
environment.  Just as in any other line of
work, you'll see women exploit their
sexuality from flirting -- to much more --
for favors and advancement.  Those
sexually based
professional relationships
often result in stress for everyone in the
immediate work environment.  When
those relationships sour, or become
scandalous, the negative effects only
multiply along with the number of people
When I did the page on sexual stress
and the male police officer, I had no
intention of addressing the same subject
regarding female police officers.  I learned
a long time ago to keep my analysis of
women's behavior, sexual or otherwise,
to myself whenever possible.  However,
fair is fair, and I should make an effort to
provide advice to women seriously
considering a police career since all things
sexual have become of such interest, and
a real source of consequences.
While men could have much more
positive control in limiting sexual
favoritism, that just simply isn't the
reality.  You might work for a sergeant --
hopefully -- who won't tolerate any type,
or even an appearance, of sexual
favoritism while your higher ranking unit
or district commander has never met a
woman who couldn't manipulate him ten
different ways.

You will see women receive favorable
treatment and advancement through
their sexual manipulation of men.  
However, think about the stress they're
suffering from the knowledge that
everybody knows how they're obtaining
the favors and advancement.  Women
who use sexual manipulation will often
justify their behavior through cynical
self-delusion.  They'll convince
themselves that they are qualified for
better assignments and advancement,
but, just because they're women, they'll
be denied their deserved assignments
and advancement. Therefore, sexual
manipulation is just something they have
to practice.

You don't have to believe me, because
you'll learn for yourself that women who
rely on their sexuality are rarely, if ever,
qualified for assignments and
advancement derived through sexual
relationships.  While those women will be
subjected to the obvious stress
generated from the tenuous nature of
such relationships, their behavior will be a
source of stress for their female
co-workers as well.

The experts will tell you that you're
entering a career rife with sexism.  
Well...that just isn't so.  It's easy to
substitute sexism for the normal ways
things have been done and continue to
be done.  You've got to remember that
you're entering government where the
concepts of quality and competence are
not immediately associated.  You can be
a police officer, male or female, of
exceptional quality and competence, and
you'll learn that those attributes won't,
on their own, get you anywhere when it
comes to assignments and advancement.

In government, the politics and personal
connections are the determining factors.  
Here's where being female obviously
becomes tricky.  How do you make those
personal and political connections in a
male dominated environment without sex
entering into the picture?  It's obviously
possible since a lot of women manage to
advance without becoming practitioners
of sexual manipulation.
Sexual Stress
and the Female
Police Officer
"...most male police officers don't
even think about sexual harassment
issues; until, they're slammed in the
face with an allegation of sexual
harassment." ~ Barry M. Baker

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